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Sunday, February 21, 2010


Whether its about business or personal life, We tend to define perfection as tool to succeed and it starts with the search for "The Perfect" : perfect idea, perfect business partner , perfect life partner, perfect job, perfect product, perfect boss, perfect employee, perfect marketing... list goes on. In this process of finding the perfect thing, we set our standards by looking at the world around us and not the world inside each one of us. Every time we evaluate something, we tend to magnify missing pieces & qualify it as incomplete or flawful because it does not fit into self imposed standards (which were set by looking at perfect things of the world but by underestimating the effort that made the perfection possible). We forget that flaws are reality

Defining something by the absence of something else is a mindset of incompletion, a hedonistic and fearful approach. It’s hedonistic because we try to isolate only the “good” things from the whole, and it’s fearful because we do that by fear of the other, “bad” side. Choosing only one side of the coin is useless and ineffective. You can’t have a full coin if you chose only one side of it. - Dragos
Hence for me, “flawlessness” is not about perfection, its about how complete can you become after accepting the reality. It might be little difficult to understand this until I ask you to watch a great ballet performance video below. This is what I call incomplete yet so flawless

Thanks to Pravin Talan for sharing this video

We always expect things to be perfect around us, a missing piece in our universe starts to cause discomfort. But we forget that we have started to take many things just for granted, even when we never owned it. Louis CK puts it in right perspective